So Many Things Change When You Become a Mom, But Not Everything
Becoming a Mom
When I became a mom everything in my life changed. My priorities – life is no longer about my wants/needs anymore, what’s best for my daughter comes first always. My worries – having a baby literally feels like part of your heart lives outside your body. I want to do right by my daughter, keep her healthy, safe and make her happy. Things I used to worry about in the past seem silly now compared to those things.
The way I see the world and some of my perspectives changed. My strength and perseverance increased. If something needs to be done for my daughter I will make it happen no matter how hard it is. I don’t concern myself with what people think of me as much. People’s opinions do not make decisions for me about what is best for my child. With all that being said and all of those changes, there is one thing that didn’t change. I am still human. It sounds obvious, right? But it was a realization – it turns out it’s not always so easy being a mom.
Looking Up to other MOms
Growing up, I looked up to my own mom a lot. My mom always had it all together. She seemed to know what to do and what to say in every single situation. I always knew that my mom’s world was her kids and her family. She was and is the most amazing and supportive mother. My mom made it look so easy and natural. That probably led to my belief that moms are “just different” from everybody else. This is definitely true in some aspects, but not in the ways you may think. I thought that when people became moms a light switch flips and they are a mom first and human second. Logically, I knew that moms still are humans too. But, it always seemed like moms just naturally knew what to do, say, and how to act without any confusion or challenges.
I always thought that when I became a mom one day I would just automatically know how to do everything. I thought I would just know what to do and/or say in every single situation and be able to handle everything perfectly. The funny thing is – that’s partially true. There is motherly intuition that started for me when I was pregnant but significantly strengthened when my daughter was born.
At my baby shower a good friend told me, “you were born to be a mom to your baby, you know how to be a mom, and you will always know what’s best for your baby.” There were certain things I had never done before my baby was born. When it came to doing those things for my baby – I could just do it and it felt natural. I do feel like I was meant to be a mom and a lot of things did just come naturally to me. I do always choose to put my daughter first and it’s a no brainer to me that what’s best for her is what I’m going to do. BUT – the part of me that’s human and imperfect didn’t just go away because I became a mom. Moms are still humans.
Moms are Humans but also superheroes
Like everyone else, you still have your own personal feelings, thoughts, emotions, wants, needs, and challenges. You do have motherly intuition that tells you what’s right for your baby – but you can still second guess yourself at times. This gave me a new level of appreciation for my mom and all moms. Despite the fact that there is motherly intuition, you put your baby first, and that you know your baby better than anyone in the world – moms are still humans. All of those things don’t just go away – but moms overcome the challenges, handle it all and make it all work. Being a mom does come first no matter what, but it doesn’t mean that the human parts of us are just shut off.
Moms are superheroes dealing with so much that no one else sees – while making it look natural and easy. Becoming a mom, gave me a new level of appreciation for my mom and all moms.
With being human, comes being imperfect. No matter how great of a mom you are – you will make mistakes, say things wrong, and handle things imperfectly at some point in time.
There’s no magic spell or light switch that goes off where moms don’t have their own feelings, emotions and challenges to work through. Society and even moms themselves, put so much pressure on mothers to be perfect all of the time. Moms aren’t perfect, that’s okay and that’s actually what makes us good moms. Choose to learn and to be better everyday. Moms tend to be harder on themselves than anyone else is. As long as you love your babies, are trying your best, being intentional, putting your child’s best interest first, and willing to learn and grow – you are being a great mom. Don’t be so hard on yourself!
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